In other words (more bluntly), everyone settles. But not-so-sappy truth?Įveryone who gets married marries a “not-yet-arrived” spouse. So they have a rather long list of desirable qualities and they will not dip a toe outside these wishes. They love the idea of “not settling” i.e not marrying a man who is in-process because they believe doing so is settling for less than they deserve.

He accepts all her friends and is taken by most of her idiosyncrasies.Ī lot of women love this version. He is 100 percent ready to take on the responsibility of a spouse and family. He seems to know most of the Bible and has the perfect delivery. He pursues her flawlessly never has a moment of doubt “because a man of God knows when he finds his good thing.” He anticipates and meets all his girlfriend’s needs. What I have a problem with, is qualities of a perfect boyfriend checklist aka the version of Boaz, prescribed by a selection of women. I have no problem with the idea of “waiting for Boaz” aka being patient in the wait/search for the right person to spend your life with. The idea of Boaz comes from the book of Ruth in the Bible, where Ruth, a widowed foreigner meets and marries a kind gentleman, named Boaz who also happens to be a distant relative of her mother in law.

If you are unfamiliar with the saying, “ waiting for Boaz” refers to waiting for the right man for marriage.

My ideal man checklist